A very dear friend sent me a text last week. He was heading off for a “self-care” week, a retreat with other monks to contemplate, meditate and examine himself & his life. He wanted to know what my intuition said, what questions I thought he should ask himself. (I’ve known him a very long time and have helped him through some deeper crises – you know, the kinds we all have at some point.)
I said, “Well only you know what to ask – I could give some suggestions, but for myself, I find it better to just tune into the present moment, and the resulting lack of obstacles allows insights to spray forth. Often insights into things it would never have occurred to you to ask about. That’s my experience, for what it’s worth.
And I LOVE that you are taking this time. You inspire me to do the same. I look forward to hearing about it when you return.”
Afterwards, I thought I might like to have added an “addendum” – i.e. that the thing to ADD and/or the best “HOW” to “Being Present” is a Prime Directive of Letting go of Tension – or RELAXING AROUND EXPERIENCE – i.e NOT JUDGING.
I was asked in a class the other day if I could sum up all of my teaching into a couple of sentences – and, of course, I laughed – but then looked at this young man and said, I think I could sum it up into one word – “Relax”.
We get all tight and tangled up, we turn our attention in directions of past & future – and when we relax – the body and the mind – presence is what happens – and insights naturally flow forth. Insights far greater and more helpful than any answer to a question.
So I find Relaxation to be the key to Presence which yields Insight (which usually suggests Presence as the Key.)
For what that’s worth.